Starting from probably 13 years old, so many people can’t wait to move out, live on their own, have life in their own hands instead of their parents’ and just be as independent as possible.
I was definitely one of those people and when I moved out because “it was time”, I also moved countries and now have been living on my own for a few months. Deep down I expected to have a blast from the very first day. And I was silly. There are things I love about being responsible for my own life but there are also things I didn’t expect to experience. I found the latter so terrifying that I was ready to come back to my old room anytime and clean my parents’ bedroom whenever they’d ask instead of facing the new life challenges. So, here is what you can only realize after leaving home and, to be honest, you might expect feeling like this
- It doesn’t matter how well you understand that money doesn’t grow on trees, you now will definitely want it (so much you would look at those trees just to make sure) and really get that, no, there’s no cash there.
- You’ll get how your whole life can become about work, and god help you if you don’t really like, or worse, hate your job.
- Making friends in a new place was much easier when your were a teen. Even if you were grounded every other day.
- Every little annoying habit your parents had now doesn’t look that bad. Now try living with a 17 years old flatmate having a very loud sex every night with her boyfriend who likes to sing in the shower at midnight when you have to get up for work at 6 o’clock.
- Paying bills sucks. As simple as that.
- On the bright side, nobody frowns at you for staying out too late or spending your day off in bed.
- You might always miss your bed. And I mean it. It’s been half a year for me, I have a perfect new bed and I still miss my own. It’s like the first love that you’ll always remember.
- Eating healthy is difficult and expensive. If you were constantly complaining that you were eating too much because your mum’s cooked food was soooo delicious, now you would give a lot to eat her food again. You might eat less when living on your own but you’ll also realize that it takes a lot of time and money to cook those delicious meals, not to mention buying healthy products. Just eat that toast and make sure you spend the biggest celebrations at your paren’s’.
- Laundry. Laundry laundry laundry. Every lesson learned means a piece of clothing ruined forever.
- When you get sick and need to see the doctor, when your address changes and you need to contact the bank or, in fact, when you need to make any kind of appointments, you actually need to make them yourself. Then you have to remember to show up.
However, every change comes with the feeling of unpleasantness but, hopefully, you’ll become a decent adult once you get used to living on your own. You might struggle at first but there’s no better feeling than realizing that you’re becoming your own person, responsible for and in control of your life. These might look like problems you have to overcome, but really, would you even want your parents to do the laundry for you until you’re 30?