What I Learned From Secretly Being on Tumblr

Social media - TumblrThe majority of us uses at least a few social media platforms, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram probably being the most popular ones. Tumblr is big too, although it doesn’t seem to be taken as seriously for bussiness purposes.  It is still very popular among younger audience. I, however, am on Tumblr just to look around. I mean, I follow a lot of blogs but don’t post anything. I use Tumblr for inspiration and sometimes end up scrolling down my dashboard for way too long, which might be a waste of time, but I  would still cry if I had to delete my account.

While I use Tumblr to inspire myself, look at those beautiful pictures, and read some amazing people’s thoughts, I am not really a Tumblr community member. (You have to actually DO something to be a part of any community, don’t you?) However, I have spent enough time there as an observer to notice a few things about Tumblr and its community.

  • Tumblr staff can be funny.  You can take a look at their “terms of service” and instantly get what I’m talking about.

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  • Tumblr can show the other side of your character about which you didn’t have a clue. The thing is, until recently, you would mostly see on your dashboard only those things you showed an interest in. This means you followed someone who posts cute pics of Harry Styles 24/7 and that might clash with you thinking you’re not into boybands or that you don’t care about celebrities and their lives. You also might want to think about a healthier lifestyle and things that deep inside you actually want to change because those 45 followed “fitspiration” blogs says something too.
  • All social problems are noted and fought over on Tumblr. Body image, animal shaming, racism, discrimination, gender issues, depression and other mental illnesses, suicide, homosexuality and many more topics seem to not only exist as something to discuss about for the Tumblr community but also are of central importance for many of them, which I personally think is awesome (except when they start having pointless arguments just for the sake of arguing).
  • What do you mean “punctuation”? I am not kidding here, text posts on Tumblr always seemed to be ok, but one day all punctuation just disappeared! People started writing 5-line sentences without even a comma or a dot. Same with the 5 sentence paragrapghs without a comma or a dot. (There are still posts with ok or even perfect punctutation, but the amount of those with no punctuation at all is just huge).
  • GIFs are like the next step in the evolution of visuals. A GIF is better than photos because it moves and becomes similar to a video but it’s better than a video because it summarizes it or shows just the best bits. Every new Youtube video or a celebrity interview is presented in gif sets in, literally, seconds.

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  • People are always shipping other people. And no, there are no ships involved in this kind of shipping.
  • You can find many aspiring writers on Tumblr and you can find really really good ones there! But you can also find both good and not so good writers posting an enormous amount of gay porn stories. Mostly called smut, and even more often involving celebrities.
  • Fandoms, fandoms everywhere.If you belong to any fandom, you would probably find many other like-minded people on Tumblr. They make a lot of GIFs after every new released video/episode/movie. They also ship the characters of that video/episode/movie and don’t you dare trying to explain someone that Dean and Sam are freaking BROTHERS.
  • Undiscovered talents. I can tell you this – sometimes it’s worth following even the cheesiest blog on Tumblr, which you are sure is run by a 13 year old kid, only because you might find out that this kid is a super talented painter/writer/the master of photoshop or video editing programs, etc. Honestly! Apparently I follow quite a few blogs that focus on celebrities and sometimes I see someone posting “so I was really bored today, so I draw this with a pencil I found on the floor in class” and then I see this A-M-A-Z-I-N-G picture of a celebrity face drawn with such accuracy without missing any details of that person’s face. I then stare at the picture that I couldn’t draw in a million years of trying and just think how unbelievable it is that the same person wrote “I’m worthless, I don’t know what I am going to do in life” in his previous post. Many talented young people are in that Tumblr community, they just haven’t yet been discovered or,in fact, haven’t discovered themselves.

You, of course, might follow absolutely different blogs on Tumblr and therefore have totally different opinions about the whole social platform. I would love to hear your thoughts!

#Askablogger chat!

Hello!

In case you guys haven’t heard about it, we had a chance to participate in a new blogger chat on Tuesday hosted by @_OliviaJadex! It starts at 7p.m on Tuesday and, judging from the first look, it will be a nice new place to chat to each other and share our thoughts about blogging-related things.

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I personally found a few great blogs to follow and talked to a few lovely bloggers because of that chat. Moreover, I learned a few things from other bloggers’ experience, which is always nice and interesting even if you’re not attempting to become a professional blogger.

Here’s a short review on what we chatted about:

  • One of the highest expectations as a blogger is to post regularly, which (agreed by all) is very difficult for those who are not full-time bloggers. Some bloggers that deal with PR companies also feel that sometimes they are expected to like anything the copmany sends them to review. Being asked to lie to your readers must be annoying.
  • The best things the majority of us finds in blogging are meeting new people, and connecting with like-minded bloggers. A blog is also a perfect place to share your thoughts, be creative and express yourself however the heck you want!
  • Being a blogger has taught us a lot. Starting from time management skills, organizational skills and ending with the growth of confidence to be open and share your thoughts.
  • What was surprising to me personally is that a lot, and I mean A LOT of people have their blogs as hobbies and don’t think of themselves as professional bloggers in the future. For me it is somehow liberating to hear that it is actually OK to have a blog as a hobby and not attempt to be a professional.
  • Many people where inspired by other bloggers to start their own blogs. I wasn’t surprised to find out that some of them were inspired by the famous British bloggers like Zoe or Louise, to name only a couple. Some of them, however, hadn’t read any blogs before starting their own.
  • People also discussed about what they would like to chat about in the next #askablogger chat and I am very excited to hear that one of the topics will be tips and tricks for blogging, which is a perfect topic for a chat with a title like that!

That was only the first chat and I am super excited to join the next ones!

Amila ♥

Monthly Favourites: March

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Hello!

We can already count hours until it’s April and I decided to do a short Monthly Favourites post to note a few things I used and loved in March. Monthly Favourites is one of my most favourite types of posts to read on others’ blogs. Because of them  I’ve got some new ideas, heard about new products and even tried a few of them. Hopefully, you’ too will like my March favourites (I have written only one similar post, which is June Favourites, and you can find it here) and share your opinions!

  • Favourite Make-up Products

Maxfactor False Lash Effect Waterproof Mascara. My first attempt to try this product was in December 2014, when I got it as a little extra for buying other MaxFactor make-up products. I must say I’m very happy about it. First of all, I wouldn’t have bought it on my own because I never wanted to try a brown mascara. I always liked the black ones to make my lashes as dramatic and long as possible. However, you would be surprised to see how long and dramatic they can look after using this brown Maxfactor mascara (I definitely was)! So I repurchased it again and used it very often!

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MaxFactor Whipped Creme Foundation. I bought this foundation in the end of December and still had some of it left. So I’ve been using it a lot this month. I can’t even say what exactly makes me love this foundation so much. It’s the first time I tried whipped creme/mousse type of foundation ever and even had this idea to never buy a liquid one again (until I did because I found an amazing match for my skin). I love that it’s not oily at all but your skin always feels moisturized. It lasted as long as I needed it to last (about 12 hours I think) even without a primer and gave my face a warm and slightly pinkish color but still managed to look natural. Amazing.

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  • Favourite Body Care Product

LUSH Lemony Flutter for Cuticles. Now this one is a product I have mixed feelings about BUT still love it for the good things I found in it. First of all, I have a huge problem with my cuticles. If there is one thing I ALWAYS am jealous about other girls (apart from super high metabolism) is their beautiful nails (which are only beautiful if the cuticles are healthy, hydrated and beautiful too). So I didn’t care about the price (you must know LUSH products are indeed pricey) and bought this lemony butter. The best qualities of the butter are the strong lemony scent because I love fresh lemon scents and that it softens your dry and cracked cuticles very quickly. A visible result in a few seconds, I’d say. However, I only use it for cuticles and not as hand cream because its texture makes it difficult to use the butter during the day. It’s very greasy and waxy and seems to stay on your skin for ages. I wouldn’t like it as a hand cream but it’s perfect for my cuticles problem. However, I know for sure that some people who suffer from very dry hand skin during winter find this cuticle butter a-m-a-z-i-n-g as a hand cream before bed time.

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  • Favourite Song

Sam Smith – I’m Not the Only One. I couldn’t skip the favourite song part as music was something involved in my every single day this March. Since I moved to England, I haven’t had many chances to play the piano so listening to music became something I do instead, I guess. I’m not one of those people who have one favourite band or one favourite song but I have to admit that I listened to this song much more than any other song this month.

  • Favourite Book

There Was a Little Girl: The Real Story of My Mother and Me. This is a book I’ve started reading just recently and haven’t yet finished. So I can’t write my review on it but what I can say is that it is an autobiographical book about the relationship between the actress Brooke Shields and her mother. It’s also a story about her career as a kid model and actress and explanation about some of the career choices her mother made for Brooke when she was only a little kid.

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  • Favourite Movie

Beyond The Lights (2014). Before you guys start thinking that I have no understanding of what a good and worth watching movie is, I want to say that I picked this one for one of those girly kind of evenings when you don’t need “the intelligent”, you need “comforting and easy”. However, this is not a dumb drama/comedy/romance type of movie. I actually really loved the idea of a celebrity wanting to free herself from the image created for the media. It was also nice seeing a story that again shows how money is not worth pretending to be what you are actually not. I really loved the main actress ,especially during the second half of the movie and I honestly think that imdb rating doesn’t show the truth this time. Anyway, let me know what you think about Beyond The Lights if you have seen it!

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Amila♥

Things You Realize When You Leave Your Parent’s Home

Hello!

Starting from probably 13 years old, so many people can’t wait to move out, live on their own, have life in their own hands instead of their parents’ and just be as independent as possible.

I was definitely one of those people and when I moved out because “it was time”, I also moved countries and now have been living on my own for a few months. Deep down I expected to have a blast from the very first day. And I was silly. There are things I love about being responsible for my own life but there are also things I didn’t expect to experience and wanted to exchange to coming back to my old room and cleaning my parents’ bedroom whenever they’d ask. So here is what you can only realize after leaving home and, to be honest, you might expect feeling like this

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  1. It doesn’t matter how well you understand that money doesn’t grow on trees, you now will definitely want it (so much you would look at those trees just to make sure) and really get that, no, there’s no cash there.

  2. You’ll get how your whole life can become about work, and god help you if you don’t really like, or worse, hate your job.
  3. Making friends in a new place was much easier when your were a teen. Even if you were grounded every other day.
  4. Every little annoying habit your parents had now doesn’t look that bad. Now try living with a 17 years old flatmate having a very loud sex every night with her boyfriend who likes to sing in the shower at midnight when you have to get up for work at 6 o’clock.

  5. Paying bills sucks. As simple as that.
  6. On the bright side, nobody frowns at you for staying out too late or spending your day off in bed.
  7. You might always miss your bed. And I mean it. It’s been half a year for me, I have a perfect new bed and I still miss my own. It’s like the first love that you’ll always remember.
  8. Eating healthy is difficult and expensive. If you were constantly complaining that you were eating too much because your mum’s cooked food was soooo delicious, now you would give a lot to eat her food again. You might eat less when living on your own but you’ll also realize that it takes a lot of time and money to cook those delicious meals, not to mention buying healthy products. Just eat that toast and make sure you spend Easter at your paren’ts.
  9. Laundry. Laundry laundry laundry. Every lesson learned means a piece of clothing ruined forever.
  10. When you get sick and need to see the doctor, when your address changes and you need to contact the bank or, in fact, when you need to make any kind of appointments, you actually need to make them yourself. Then you have to remember to show up.

However, every change comes with the feeling of unpleasantness but, hopefully, you’ll become a decent adult once you get used to living on your own. You might struggle at first but there’s no better feeling than realizing that you’re becoming your own person, responsible for and in control of your life. These might look like problems you have to overcome, but really, would you even want your parents to do the laundry for you until you’re 30?

My Life in Essex: Weird Theatre Night

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I want to share with you something I saw this week and found quite weird, to say the least. Since I had a day off, I thought I’d like to just go out and do something to put my mind off of work-related stuff. So I found an ad about a theatre performance happening in the evening and instantly decided to go.

This artist, Lucy Hutson, came from London to perfom her show calledBritney Spears Custody Battle vs. Zeus in Swan Rape Shocker”. Quite a title, huh? Now risking to sound absolutely stupid, I will not hide it – I can’t explain how and why the title relates to the performance itself and the issues discussed in it. You can make a lot of theories about the things you don’t understand but I’d rather didn’t. Not this time at least. I have this weird idea that Lucy might find this post and slap me in the face for misleading interpretations of her art. And trust me, she seems like a woman you don’t want to mess with.

If I had to describe the whole performance in one sentence, I would probably repeat this:

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Also, she just was a damn brave woman.

Amila ♥

Max Factor Purchases + free gifts!

Hello!

Today I had a lovely day in town and visited my local drugstore to look at the make up items they offer.

I didn’t really plan to buy anything specific but eventually bought Max Factor Whipped Creme Foundation and Mastertouch Under-eye Concealer. It’s totally not my fault. It’s the Max Factor consultant who works there and knows what all girls like! She was very lovely and tried make-up on my face, showing all those products and telling about their benefits and some tips on how to use them. I just couldn’t resist. Well done, Max Factor lady!

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I love the creamy texture of the foundation as well as the fact that it’s both matte and moisturizing. Double effect! It’s perfect for those who have some dry areas on their face, like I do (only some spots though). When the consultant applied this foundation on my skin, the dry areas were totally hidden and moisturized, which didn’t happen after applying a couple of other Max Factor foundations.

The concealer is more liquid and suitable for the under-eye area rather than for hiding other spots on the face. It lightens up the skin but not really hides anything. So I would suggest to look for something else if you want to hide pimples.

Also! If you spend at least £15, you get a present!

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This is what I found in the box:

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  • False Lash Effect mascara. It’s waterproof and does make my eye lashes look longer but what I didn’t expect and don’t really like is that it’s brown. I don’t really like brown mascaras in general as I don’t find them actually visible on my lashes. It’s great if you attempt to create a very natural look though.

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  • Colour Elixir Lipstick in Cherry Kiss, which is suitable for all those brave girls that don’t avoid red lipsticks. I, however, will keep it for a special occasion as I don’t wear lipstics everyday. I still love the colour!

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  • Nail polish Glossfinity in Raspberry Blush. Oh I do love this one. However, I don’t know about how long it lasts on your nails yet.
  • And finally, Wild Shadow in Golden Amazon. Perfect perfect perfect choice of the eye shadow if you’re brown-eyed or have a darker skin in general. It would also be great for doing a smokey-eye make-up! Itis not entirely of golden colour but has some green-ish shade as well (which is not visible in the photo, sorry). When mixed, it just makes the perfect eye shadow.

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When “What Ifs” Are Killing You

Living your life without taking control of it and just “going with the flow” is particularly easy at first. There’s a fairly predictable path you may want to go until you’re about 22 (the age can vary!). So you go to school, then you get into college or university, and then you have to choose a career. But at some point you just get the possibility of choosing a clear start or following what you’ve been doing so far. The direction you choose depends on how satisfied you are about your life and the only way you find the answer is to look inside yourself. (I’m sure there are people – and I’m very glad for them – who have known what they wanted their life to be like since they were 5, but the post is more about those like me, who never did).

After graduating from university, I had my chance to ask myself “what now?”. I felt like I had been living with a constant feeling of lacking something, frustrated about not doing anything about it and losing control of my life. My relationship wasn’t as satisfying anymore and there were many reasons for that but mostly, me and my boyfriend were in the middle of creating our own lives and focused on ourselves most of the time, which left little energy to focus on each other. So we grew apart to the point where it wasn’t so hard to say our goodbyes anymore. It’s not as easy as it may sound but it always does sound easier when you speak about the ended relationship after some time, doesn’t it?

Also, I had a huge desire to leave my parents’ house and start living on my own. The only thing I didn’t understand then was that leaving the house means leaving my family (obviously, right?). I couldn’t really understand the feeling until I finally left and this is still heartbtreaking for me. But at the same time I think this is a natural stage of growing up which can’t be denied. It’s everyone’s personal choice, but I can’t imagine myself living with my parents all the time.

The point is, everything I had in my life was safe. In the middle of my comfort zone except for occasional challenges. And I was sick and tired of having everything safe.

However, I felt like I came to that point in my life where I didn’t have any responsibilities keeping me in the same place anymore – no boyfriend, no studies, no amazing job I couldn’t leave (although I had a fairly nice job). And this led to me realising that for the past few years this was exactly what I had been asking myself – WHAT IF I didn’t have a boyfriend? What if I didn’t have my studies here? What if I didn’t live with my parents? And I always new the answer – I would move to the UK, start living on my own and get to know the culture I’ve been studying for 4 years. And then? Who knows!

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I took the first chance to test those “what ifs” that had been spinning in my mind for years. And despite of all the difficulties I had and still have to face here, I feel relieved. It’s a good thing to take control of your life and take a risk. No matter what happens you can always change the direction you’re going now. So why not take a risk and try something you were silently thinking about in sentences starting with “what if”?

Personally, I now realize that I never knew how much weight those “what ifs” had. And it’s our choice if we carry that weight on our shoulders or drop it and take a little risk in our lives! Who knows what amazing things we are missing while staying in the same place, frustrated and annoyed.

Amila♥

Ebay purchase: Lovely ME:EX Make Up Base

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Hello!

Hopefully, you all are aware of how primers can benefit to the quality of your make up and have found the best one for yourselves. But if not, you may as well read this little review about a make up base/primer I bought on Ebay.

You can guess, it’s not a very expensive one. I bought it for about $3 or $4. I bought it quite some time ago so I can’t really remember the exact price. However, it was no more than 3 or 4 dollars and, I don’t now if you agree with me here, but I could tell the price from its tube. It is a very simple grey tube which doesn;t look very attractive.

Luckily, the packaging and price don’t entirely define the product. The make up base is offered in two colours – violet (the one I bought) is meant to neutralize and brighten yellow tones while green should cover the unwanted redness of your skin.  The base is very fluid and it’s quite difficult to control the amount of the product that comes out, so that’s something I didn’t like.

You need a very small amount of the base to cover your whole face. If you overuse it, believe me, not only will it cover the yellow tones of your face but also your actual face. If you don’t want to become ghostly white, don’t push the tube too hard. Once, I applied a little too much of this base, and my foundation looked much brighter on my face that it usually does.  Also, it has a distinctive scent but it kind of disappears once you apply it on the skin.

One amazing thing about  Lovely ME:EX Make Up Base is that if you have an oily skin – it’s perfect for you. At least in that it makes your skin seem less oily and more matte. The substance of the base is not sticky or oily as well, which I love about it. My face is quite oily in the T zone, so I find it very helpful, especially with the foundations that tend to look oily after a few ours of wearing it.

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Amila♥

Starting A New Life

Hi there!

Long time no see! I don’t even know how much time has passed exactly since my last post but I have a pretty serious reason for that. Not only did I lose some faith in what I was doing here, which I think is normal, but I also seriously changed my life, which left no time for reviewing make-up items or posting pictures of my happy moments.

First, I went to Sweden for work and holiday with the intention to figure out my life and my future. Then, I got out of a 5 year relationship with the person I though I’d spent my life together. Finally, I moved to the UK, found a job (totally different from what I had been doing until now) and started living on my own for the first time, again, with the intentions to figure out my life and my future.

Well guess what? I haven’t figured out anything yet except that I need to keep looking for the opportunities and not allow myself to get comfortable with this kind of job and this kind of life.

After a whole month of living in a totally different world from what I was used to, I can tell now that I understand what loneliness really is, I understand how hard it is to get yourself in the position where you are respected and accepted when there isn’t a single person who knows about your past and how good you are at something. I also met such people which I call “life lessons” instead of their real names because they are really challenging pains in the ass and you have to find a way to deal with it.

Apart from that, I can say that (and everyone who did something similar will understand that) I am proud of myself at least for trying to change what I didn’t like in my life. I mean, I absolutely stepped out of my comfort zone. In fact, not only did I stretch it but went far away from its boundaries untill it wasn’t just uncomfortable but rather unbelievably stressful. And I got used to it. I overcame the difficulties and challenges and I can’t tell you enough how this step changed me.

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From now on, if I meet a person who wants to change his/her life but is scared, I WILL encourage them with all the passion I have inside of me. Change is good. Change is opportunity. Change is new experiences and new life.

Amila ♥

Summer Body Lotion – AVON

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Hello!

I recently bought something new from AVON and wanted to share it with the beauty lovers! I’ve already spoke about how happy I was with the hair serum from AVON so I thought it was time to try out some other of their products.

I bought AVON Sensuelle body lotion of the scent I literally adore. They offer the body lotion, perfume and hand cream of the same scent, which is kind of typical for AVON. I guess they think if you like some particular scent, you may as well like having it everywhere on your body. Well, I can’t complain. I think it’s a better idea than having ten thousand different scents on you.

The scent is the main reason I bought it. If you tried this, you may help with describing it as I’m terrible at describing scents! I either like it or not. What I can definitely say is that it smells fresh and seems perfect for summer. It does have a slightly stronger scent than usual body lotions. Personally, this one definitely seems more suitable for using before going out than before going to sleep. I kind of  see it as body perfume . It’s also quite fluid, actually more fluid than body lotions that are meant to moisturize your skin.

It says “smooth over body whenever needed” on the back but we could’ve figured it out by ourselves, right?

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Amila ♥